When You’ve Had Enough

It took a while for me to have “had enough.”

Enough of how I was feeling, enough of the toxicity, enough of the fighting, eggshells, anxiousness…I had to WANT the change instead of wishing it would just happen. The reality is that life shouldn’t feel so difficult and it doesn’t have to…if you’re making the right changes.

For me it took one last fight to rid the person causing the toxicity. Then it took focusing on me and making some changes that were uncomfortable at first because of the state of “me” I had become. But, as I did this, day by day I became a little more “me” again and was able to calm my thoughts, I was able to focus more, I was able to enjoy the moments I was a part of…till eventually, I felt whole again.It took me wanting to stop feeling my worst to feel my best. And while it was hard to take that first step and it was hard to make those changes initially, it was harder to stay in the uncomfortable sadness I was in.

Where are you right now? Are you willing to stay there or are you ready for better?

You decide.

I’m a dm away when you’re ready ๐Ÿ’™

CRUSH It.

Have you ever started a day completely anxious, nervous, tense, scared about whatever the day could bring or what could happen in that morning meeting or how someone was going to react to the email you sent late last night?

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For real. You ๐™˜๐™–๐™ฃ stop having that kind of reaction when you ๐™˜๐™๐™ค๐™ค๐™จ๐™š to. Choose to speak more positively to yourself (“I’m doing my best work at my job” “I said nothing wrong in this email and worded it professionally.”) And LET GO of expectations.

When we hold any type of ๐ž๐ฑ๐ฉ๐ž๐œ๐ญ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ, too high or too low, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment. But, when we navigate our days embracing the moments in front of us and going with the flow, watch the joy you feel start to overflow!

Now, go CRUSH this day!

I know you can ๐Ÿ™‚

Healing The Trauma

Domestic Violence comes in many forms. Just because a fist isn’t raised or blood shed, doesn’t mean there isn’t trauma that can be everlasting.

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month…you’re not stuck, you’re not alone and you can get out, live happily and move forward. I would love to use the negative experience I went through as a positive to help you.

I’m just a message away for more info.

Notice Your Progress

I’ve been discussing this more and more over the last week with clients…notice where you were and where you are NOW.

We’re with ourselves all the time (duh) so, we are less apt to notice the changes in ourselves until someone else says something or something slaps us in the face to point it out.Make sure you notice your progress and always keep going. Hard work doesn’t create massive change overnight. You need to keep putting 110% into yourself to get to the place you want to be, whether it’s mentally, physically or otherwise.

Keep a journal of your reactions to things, people, etc. Record how you’re feeling, what made you feel certain ways, how it’s different from when you started your journey and allow yourself to celebrate your progress.

It’s also so important to remember that if people are saying things like “you seem so much happier” or “you look amazing!” They’re not just saying it to say it! When you’re on a journey of weight loss, as an example, seeing yourself in the mirror every day, you may not notice that 5lb difference, but someone else may be aware that you’ve seemed to tone up and that there was some hard work being put in. Take those compliments and use them to push you harder with your goals!

Visit Feel This Happy dot com and see how I can help guide you from the very start ๐Ÿ™‚

Captivity

Captivity.

It’s a strong word and at first, if you’re like me, you would have equated it to war and thought this doesn’t pertain to me. I truly didn’t think it did as I read the book, “Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence – From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror.”

See, it was 2015 and I had recently gotten myself out of a dangerous cycle of a relationship. I was feeling so out of sorts, like my head was spinning and I couldn’t catch my breath. I knew I needed something for the anxiety I was feeling, so I decided to study up on it. Little did I know, one paragraph in one chapter would change my life forever and begin my healing journey.

“People subjected to prolonged, repeated trauma develop an insidious, progressive form of post-traumatic stress disorder that invades and erodes the personality. While the victim of a single acute trauma may feel after the event that she is “not herself,” the victim of chronic trauma may feel herself to be changed irrevocably, or she may lose the sense that she has any self at all.”

BINGO.

WOW. I read that paragraph over and over and it hit me that the chapter I almost skipped over, the chapter I thought wouldn’t help me at all may have just saved my life! I now knew what I was struggling from: PTSD.

Realizing this was what I was truly dealing with gave me a sense of clarity, understanding and a weight lifted from my shoulders because now? NOW, I knew what I had! And once you know what to “fix” or work on, you can start to heal.

That’s how it started for me. My journey has been going on for 5-years and even lead to beginning Feel This Happy so I can help guide you or someone you love who is struggling to find their happy place like I have.

It takes work, dedication and the true want to move forward but for those who are ready for a change, it becomes the most incredible first step! Feel free to send me a dm and ask whatever questions you need answered. The more I can provide that allows you to know this is the right fit for you, the better โค

You Never Have To Do It Alone

The people have spoken ๐Ÿ˜„

I’m not saying I have all the answers.

What I’m suggesting is that you never have to go through your journey alone.

From the very first steps you take, you can have someone to lean on, talk things through with and start making choices that’ll guide you to your end goal, whether it be weight loss, confidence boosting, removing toxicity from your life and much more to help lead you to your happy place.DM me for more or please take a moment to visit my website to see more. I don’t think it’s any coincidence that I started FTH at the beginning of 2020, entering into one of the mentally toughest periods for all of us. Lets get through it together!

Feel Happiness

“The most worth-while thing is to try to put happiness into the live of others.”

This quote is so incredibly true. I am someone that people have always gone to for advice, an ear, a shoulder…watching how this helped people or how the advice and guidance changed their world for the better, it gave me the push I needed to start Feel This Happy.

When I began putting all of this together, I clearly had no idea we would be heading into a global pandemic (talk about timing.) I could have allowed it to discourage me, instead, I’ve worked harder.

Launching in January and signing up my first client, then the next and the next; working with companies to speak with their employees via Fb live and Zoom during the beginning of this pandemic on how to make life easier for themselves; hopping onto radio shows dishing out anxiety reducing techniques. Getting to the 6 month mark right on par with my personal goal and moving forward one step at a time. This has been a crazy year, but a crazy year full of positive results!

You can read some of the reviews on Facebook and you can experience it for yourself. But, you need to want to feel your best and you need to put in the effort that goes along with it, like anything else.

So you tell me: Are you ready to feel better? DM me today for more โค

“How Did I Get Here?”

When I was at my lowest, I remember having moments of wondering, โ€œhow did I get here?!โ€

Like what in the ever loving hell brought me to this point? To this place of overwhelming sadness, darkness, unintentional, ever-flowing tears where some days it took all I had to push through? How did I get here?

In reality, I knew.

I wasnโ€™t blind to my surroundings, I was just too invested in them. Toxic people or environments can trick you into thinking you can fix them or things will change over time. You just need to get to this date or this anniversary or get past this thing at work being due.

But the truth of it all is the only thing that changes over time is how awful you begin to feel inside. I chat to clients a lot about toxic people and toxic spaces and what it comes down to for yourself and your well being – get away. Away from the constant fights or feelings of not being worthy; Away from the place thatโ€™s twisting your stomach into knots and leaving you anxious to return.

The moment you make the choice to leave these situations, the moment you take that first step is the moment you become lighter and more free. It doesnโ€™t mean youโ€™ll immediately feel your best. What it means is youโ€™re on your way to getting there, one step and one day at a time.

You donโ€™t have to do it alone. For an ear, guidance and information reach out to me today. Your next chapter can start confidently bold with strength in numbers.

Happiness Is a Choice

I know, you may be having a moment reading this all like, โ€œMarissa, I canโ€™t choose happiness like itโ€™s on a shelf at Target.โ€

*insert your eye roll here*

But believe me when I say, youโ€™re RIGHT, because itโ€™s INSIDE OF YOU. You just choose if you allow yourself to feel it or not.

For realzies!

Our own personal happiness is something that we all begin with when we are brought into this world. Think about it, have you ever once met a baby that you just couldnโ€™t get to smile or giggle by doing almost next to nothing. Itโ€™s instilled in us.

So what happens? Well, for a lack of better description: STUFF.

Itโ€™s all the experiences we have and the people surrounding us that become a part of our own personal code. They, along with how we react and feel, program our insides. And suddenly (or not so suddenly) weโ€™re super depressed and canโ€™t get out of the funk.But a lot of the time, we get in our own ways.

Example: We have something traumatic happen and choose to bottle it up rather than getting the help we need to heal. This is something that can have long lasting effects. It can control how you handle every single thing you do…

So where do you start to pick up these pieces to put yourself back together? Take my hand…letโ€™s start this trip with someone you can lean on and help you begin. Reach out to FEEL THIS HAPPY today โค๏ธ

The First Step…

This pandemic has been a struggle for everyone – yes, literally everyone!

We may all be in different boats, but we’re all wearing life jackets wondering if they’ll stay afloat.

You’re not alone!

But it doesn’t need to feel like the anchor is life is weighing you down all the time – even during a pandemic.

Find out techniques you can do wherever you are to start feeling better, happier and lighter by setting up your first session with Feel This Happy. Our clients are already feeling the difference, join them by taking that first step…it’s always the hardest to admit you’re not feeling your best, but once you hop over that hump, you’re on your way to smiling more and taking your life back โค