I was having a conversation over the weekend with a friend who has been trying so desperately to feel better.
I know that feeling all too well. It’s like you’re stuck on the edge of a freakin’ cliff and a bear is creeping up on you. Whattya do? Jump to your demise or fight a bear?
I hate to say this, but you fight that picnic basket stealing, Charmin hiney cleaning, porridge eating bear! 𝔹𝕖𝕔𝕒𝕦𝕤𝕖 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕓𝕖𝕒𝕣 𝕚𝕤 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕤𝕙𝕚𝕥 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕔𝕠𝕞𝕖𝕤 𝕒𝕥 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕚𝕟 𝕝𝕚𝕗𝕖.
Seriously, it sucks, I know. What sucks even more, though? Giving up.
I realized in this particular situation, my friend was literally grabbing at anything that seemed like it would help her “fix” the problem. She’s reaching for books and online therapeutic treatments like EMDR and she listed off so many podcasts I stopped paying attention after a few minutes.
Here’s the BIG THING that I realized: these were all quick fixes that only allowed momentary relief.
Hey, you hear that? M O M E N T A R Y R E L I E F.
She felt real good right after whatever it was she was diving into. But, a couple hours later or maybe the next day that goodness had worn off. I’m not gonna say she was right back to square one, because I do believe some progress has been made. However, the big revelation for me was noticing the actual root of all the problems was still unknown.
So instead of attempting to heal from the cause of the pain, she was utilizing these quick fix type methods to mask it instead. Putting a band aid on a bullet hole. Like an alcoholic reaching for a bottle. Anything to try to feel better.
I completely get why anyone would do this. Besides the fact that we want everything instantly these days, when it comes to our own personal happiness? Of course we want it NOW. Who wouldn’t?
But I’m here to dish the hard truth to ya: Your happiness will take hard work.
I know that it seems like something that should just magically happen, like breathing. (How do our brains just go and do that all on their own?!) Instead, like my fingers knowing where the correct keys are to type a sentence, it requires training. No one picks up a guitar the first time and plays “Stairway to Heaven.” You learn the chords, you do the scales, you put in the practice and you get better.
The first thing you need to do, just like my friend, is figure out what the problem is.
For you it could literally be as simple as lacking the motivation to lose weight. Okay, I can push you and give you some homework to follow, hold you accountable and guide you on your weight loss journey. Sometimes it’s as simple as not wanting to let someone else down because yourself? You’re used to putting things off, or saying you’re going to do one thing and then never doing it. We let ourselves down all the time, even in just tiny ways. We feel guilty, but we forgive ourselves (most of the time.)
Maybe you’re struggling with something else, like anxiety. Been there, done that. It was one of the big, big things I had to fix for myself. So, I have so many techniques to share to help slow down your mind and help you live a calmer, happier life!
There are so many different ways that I can help just about anyone, but it truly starts with knowing what the thing is that you want to work on and checking out what type of session you’d be most comfortable with.
So, do yourself the favor and answer this: Do you want to live happier?
Then lets 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐚𝐝𝐯𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐨𝐝𝐚𝐲. We’ll laugh, we’ll cry, there may be sweat and frustration, but there will be a positive result if you’re ready to make it happen. When I made the choice for myself, it wasn’t immediate, it was gradual, but I felt like a new person from the inside out and now thinking back on how far I’ve come, I can’t help but smile.